Alternatives to Abuse
- Do you get extremely jealous when your partner talks with other people?
- Do you frequently criticize and embarrass your partner?
- Do you constantly checkup on your partner and feel the need to always be in control? Is your family afraid of you when you get angry?
Anger and jealousy are both normal emotions...but where do you draw the line? Harassment, stalking and physical and sexual assaults, whether on a stranger, an acquaintance, or your partner or spouse, are illegal under the New Jersey Prevention of Domestic Violence Act. These actions may result in being legally restrained or removed from the home and/or charged with committing criminal actions.
When there is abuse in the relationship, no one wins. It hurts everyone. We know change can be difficult. Let JCNV help you.
Jersey Center for Non-Violence
JCNV first began in 1983, as the ACT Program for men and has been expanded to provide services for women and adolescent males. It is a counseling program to help people examine the use of force and/or abuse within intimate relationships and to learn alternatives.
Initially, participants meet privately with a professional counselor. From there, they join one of the many groups held throughout the week. By hearing the perspectives of others, as well as the insight from facilitators, participants develop new personal outlook. All counseling sessions are confidential.
Intimate partner abuse is unbiased in whom it affects and cuts across ethnic, sexual orientation and economic lines. It affects the children, other family members, friends and society.
Here what participants have to say about our program.
Men Talk with CBS Evening News on How the ACT Program Changed Their Lives
A comprehensive group counseling curriculum for men who use abuse in their intimate relationships. While meeting once a week for 26 weeks, the participants discuss Anger Management, Beliefs, Myths on Domestic Violence, Gender Roles, Impact on Children, and more.
CHOICES: A Group for Adolescent Males
A counseling group for boys ages 12 17 who have begun using abuse in relationships. It meets once a week for 12 weeks and teaches boys to develop and maintain healthy relationships. Discussion topics include Emotional Abuse and Mind Games, Jealousy and Manipulation, Abuse of Siblings and Parents, Substance Abuse, and Communication and Negotiation Skills.
VISTA: A Program for Women
Vista is an 20-week curriculum addressing women's use of force. Within Vista, women explore the motivations, intent and consequences for their actions. Vista emphasizes that the use of force is not appropriate and teaches healthy alternatives. Group topics include Identifying Forceful Behaviors, Anger, Defense Mechanisms, Healthy Boundaries, Effects of Force on Children, Conflict Resolution and Healthy Relationships.
The Vista Curriculum is available to those wishing to implement a similar program in their community. Publications & Brochures.
For more information on making an appointment or a referral, contact JCNV:
Counseling for Men and Boys: 973-539-7801
Counseling for Women through Vista: 973-539-7801.